I was out with my mother and brother the other day to get garb for my cousin sister’s wedding and Deepavali.
After browsing many salwar kameez, I lost my heart to a black and gold ensemble; it was absolutely magnificent.
But, my mom didn’t approve my choice – she went on to say that black is an inauspicious colour and strictly should not be donned on events like weddings and religious festivals like Deepavali because the colour black is the colour of death, worse luck and imminence. As we were haggling the price of the dresses, I was arguing with my mom that her claim doesn’t make sense and is superstitious as well as redundant. I was like, “Come on mom, your fear is needless. It’s 2014, not 1914..” My mom is one of the most stubborn, insistent and persuasive persons I know and finally I had to settle for her choice of a dark purple salwar. Plus, my brother backed my mom and I lost to their solidarity.
So, I went to my cousin sister’s wedding, dressed in inky purple, only a few shades lighter than black. Just then, my cousin sister came to join us. She was draped in a pulchritude plain black sari. The wedding was my extended family’s reunion – my uncles, aunts and cousins were present.
After the wedding, I asked my mom,” Ma, did you see Sai? She wore a black sari. Wasn’t it gorgeous? How come she or atte didn’t have any qualms of wearing black to a wedding?” My mom promptly replied, “They are modern people. They don’t believe in such stuff.”
Black means bad bode?
Well, for the record, my aforementioned cousin sister studied Biotech in the University of Toronto and celebrated her birthday at the Grand Canyon National Park with her family. Her family is the most successful and accomplished of all my kin. She wearing black didn’t impinge her in any way. That’s a very powerful message as far as I am concerned – they are not preoccupied with petty restrictions, superstition and taboo. They have good hearts and that is all that matters. That is not modern – that’s having conscience and abiding by it.
I also think that this stigma associated with black is what makes dark skinned Indians especially Indian women be considered unattractive, originating from low caste and less favoured compared to fair skinned Indians.
According to aerodynamics, the bee shouldn’t be able to fly but the bee doesn’t know that so it flies anyway. Similarly, we shouldn’t let trivial issues bog us down. If you feel like wearing black, wear black. Only make sure your heart isn’t black; there is no whitening cream for black hearts. Ill fate doesn’t befall anybody because they wear their favourite colour, be it black or beige – ill fate befalls people because of their ill actions onto others.