This discrimination and shaming of dark skin in Indians, especially in Indian girls seems to be endless and here I am, poised to write about it yet again because of personal stories our readers sent us to blow whistle on. This time around, I am going to be vitriolic to all the Indians out there who discriminate dark skin in Indians be it girls or guys because, it is high time I knock some hard sense into those knuckleheads!
"Greetings, Thumbs up and kudos for all of your articles. Considering your recent article, dark skin Indeed, and many siblings had their rivals because of the skin. Can’t deny at all, even though sisters actually love each other. My own experience, my sister and I. I\'m the eldest of the family, and the next sibling of mine is my sister- who 3 years old younger than me. I\'m dark skin, and she is fairer. This wasn’t a matter at all when we were kids, but relatives choose to start the rivals between us. Almost every day, we fought; unfortunately it was because the skin, the difference they showed to us was quite spoiled. I was never allowed to follow to any function instead they will ask my sister to follow- I will be at home playing and watching TV, in that young age I didn’t realize, time change and I started to realize the skin problem is bothering me much. The rivals between us get stronger, and usually the pet name (karrupi) started to use on me.Time passes, we had grudge each other in our teenage days eventually it fades after I went to extend my studies in KL, then every time I back home only the love has blossomed between my sis and me, till my parents arranged alliance for her. Happy moments cherished together and we forget about the skin rival, simply a sort of disappointment started when my father introduces me to my brother in law’s family- she is my eldest daughter-the way they looked at me, man! I still can’t digest- is she her real sister? Errgh, she is your adopted child is it? Or the worse you had another wife?? My father usually answers this entire question calmly, but I got hurt much! Even though I\'m in a good and respective position yet these kinds of questions disturbs me much!!! Moreover, my past relationship was broken after 5 years because of my skin colour. For god sake, I didn’t ask for this dark skin!!! Tears flooding overtime when they compare me to other fair skin girl/lady, and now my father’s biggest dilemma-how is he going to find mappilai for me! This is my story, the more I get stronger and ignoring people the more I get biased by the skin comparison. Yeah- tamilan true colour is black-and we reject them also! Tamilan!!! Thank you for your time.
If you discriminate by dark skin, karma would whoop your ass
One of my aunt rejected many, many dark skinned potential brides for her sons. She finally found white nymphs as wives for her sons and one of them is dead conceited and extravagant and another is childless. One of her son ended up unmarried because of his mother’s fussiness.
Does discriminating dark skin makes one a good person? One maybe kind and compassionate but if they consciously deem dark skin on Indian girls is faulty, then they are not good! Who gave you the right to advice dark skinned girls to use such useless whitening beauty products that are potentially harmful or comedogenic and tell them not to be too choosy in finding a husband? Who are you to determine that their whole worth as an astute human being lies on how much melanin concentration they have on their skin? Do you know what’s melanin and its usefulness in deterring skin cancer? You don’t? Then read up on it and shut up if you don’t have anything nice to say to a person with dark skin. Sure, it’s easier to say so to the daughters of other people but imagine being a parent of a dark skinned daughter and have all these pussies and low lifes telling your child to use Fair & Lovely if she ever dreams of getting married. Appo vali teriyum. Paavam da, paavam, summa thorti, thorti adikum and if it doesn’t reach you, it will reach your offspring.
Indian girls with deliciously dark skin out there, if any aunty or paati recommends you to use Garnier or Fairever, tell them you use them on your butt. That would belt them up good. I know that they are our elders but their words aren’t wise and it’s your body and skin tone and you have the right to defend it from those elderly, unlicensed, self designated, clueless, unprofessional, uninvited, discriminatory and gratuitous beauty consultants who have no better work to do.
And then, there are Indian actors like Shah Rukh Khan, Asin, Surya, Priyanka Chopra and many more who endorse India based whitening beauty products. It caused an outrage in India but, it didn’t stop there. Taking dark skin repulsion to a whole new level is whitening vagina wash. Aiyo, kadavule.. Our dark nether region doesn’t need lightening, the effing brains and hearts that come up with this preposterous ideals are the ones which are in dire need of bleaching. The heartening news is, Kangana Ranaut, Katrina Kaif, Aamir Khan and several other Indian actors have spoken against this insane salivate for white skin and vowed that they would never endorse any whitening chemical beauty concoction for that matter. Finally, some Indian influential people who talked sensibly.
Parents can reverse this conditioning on dark skin discrimination
As our reader said above, it is family which makes a difference, early on and I cannot agree with her more. Yes girl, you stole the the words from my mouth. This is true in my family and I believe many of you reading this can relate to me.
When my mother got a first glimpse at her dark skinned daughter, moments after childbirth, her immediate worry was, who would marry her and my sister was barely a day old.
As my said sister grew up, Mother would beat for every petty thing. Even Father didn’t love his dark skinned daughter like he did his other children. Her fair skinned elder siblings insisted that she was adopted and eschewed her during play time. Once, our brother stamped a red hot firewood ember on her left thigh and when she ran to Father with a tearful complaint, he offhandedly said,”Good, he should have seared your right thigh too. Anyway, the scar wouldn’t be visible because you’re so black.” My sister was 6 years old at that time. I wasn’t born yet when that happened; Mother told me this story recently.
All these lack of affection, bias and preferential treatment rendered my sister an introvert with a high degree of inferiority complex.
When my sister got to the marriageable age, suitor upon suitor rejected her because of her dark skin. At long last, a very dark man, whose education qualification is SRP fail came to see my sister and agreed to marry her. He was rejected by many girls for his dark skin and his education status so reject case sama reject case got united in matrimony. Although my bro-in-law is not very educated, he is a gem of a person and my sister is damn lucky to have him as her husband.
My sister has 3 boys, 2 of them are dark and the youngest of them is not. My mother always says to her grandsons with dark skin that they better study well and become a lawyer, doctor or engineer, else, no girl would marry them because they are dark, implying that education qualification and well paying careers would cancel out their undesirable skin colour in front of any ponnu. And, to her youngest grandson, she says,”Nee thanda konjum latchanama irukeh.” My sister lives in a joint family system and all of her in-laws are dark like in the film Paarthale Paravasam and all of them shower unbridled affection on my sister’s youngest son because he is the fairest among them all. Even my sis loves the runt of her litter extra, much to the dissatisfaction of her older sons, perpetuating this vicious cycle.
Like how in India the birth of a son is rejoiced and the birth of a daughter is mourned, in the Malaysian Indian community, the birth of a fair baby is exulted and the birth of a baby with dark skin is welcomed with a somewhat subdued felicity. I have a lot of nephews and nieces that come in all shades and I’ve seen how their parents flaunt their fair skinned children and not show off their dark bebes. When describing a newborn, the first thing that pops out of our Indian elders’ mouths is whether the baby is fair or not.
This needs to change if we are going to get dark skin discrimination over with and it starts with parents. Never love your kid less if he/she is dark skinned. Tell him or her that they are beautiful every single day and hug them extra tight. I am not saying that you should play down your love for your fair skinned child but treat and love your children equally while accepting their distinct attributes wholeheartedly. If you find your fair skinned child teasing his/her sibling’s dark skin, tell them it’s very wrong and that since they came out from the same womb, they are the same, like how day and night complement each other, like how black and white keys of a piano work together to produce melodious music.. Equip your dark skinned child with high confidence and drill into them that they should not let no one to demean them based on their skin colour, including imposing relatives. Never mind if you develop enmity with them – their conduct is not friendly either and they should be told what exactly you think of them IN THE FACE. Tolerance only fuels ridicule and smugness on behalf of the commentators. Or use sarcasm like in the picture below.
If any mapley/ponnu reject your son/daughter under the dark skin pretext, tell them that you wouldn’t want your child to spend the rest of his/her life with them and that your grown up child, in all the awesomeness of chocolate hued skin not only deserve better, they deserve the best and that anyone who thinks otherwise can take a hike. If every Indian parent apply this, dark skin discrimination will get over with. Have pride in dark skin and strut your sexiness honey!
Don’t make me write on this for the 4th time around. Vaayileh nalla varum, solliten..