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Aradhana

She has an opinion on every Malaysian Indian goings on. She can be called Karuthu Kannama. She writes on issues that matter in our Indian community and forwards fresh and sometimes revolutionary ideals.

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    Dheeksha

    Hi.. its just a personal opinion.. sometimes it isnt elderly people who are against the friendship.. whatever they do they do it for a reason.. yes i do agree a boy and girl can be friends but best friends im not really sure.. somehow at one point either one of you might end up getting really confused with your feelings and end up as love..it happens not all the time but almost… intimacy with every guy isnt really healthy…no matter how you try to change the mentality, we are still indians and we have a due respect in the society..that is what make us different from other cultures…no matter what you say no indian husband or wife would like their spouses to maintain a really close relationship with a friend of the opposite gender..its called jealousy… its a human instinct and you cant change that… i think hugging and kissing isnt the culture of asians and thats what makes us different from westerners which gains us respect.. so yea, a boy and a girl can be friends but not besties because a lot of confusion with feelings may happen and bring in a lot of problems…i have read a few of your articles.. i think you have a modern thinking but not all of this can be changed.. no hard feelings.. thank you.

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      Aradhana

      I have added there that Indians (which means both young and old) don’t go well with the idea of Indian guy and girl friendship. I didn’t mention intimacy with every guy – of course there are limits which I have stated in the article which you missed. Now, you are generalizing – not all Indians are like that. Can you vouch that for every married Indian who has a friend of the opposite gender is plagued by jealousy and an unhappy life? Human instincts? LOL, we are talking about Indians here. I agree that hugging and kissing are not in our culture and it is up to any individual to espouse it or not – but, they shouldn’t be branded as immoral wholesale. I think and write not to change things. I’m merely a tool – it is up to the readers to change or not. But, that doesn’t mean that I should stop being a useful tool that advocates change.

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