Some Malaysian Indian guys behave like baboons when they see Malaysian Indian girls/women in public. This is especially true and ubiquitous during Thaipusam – I have seen many pretentious Indian guys donning cheapskate sunglasses, garish Mohawk wigs and armed with a vuvuzela which doubles up as Cupid bow and arrows, trying to get the attention of passing by Meenachis.
Indian guys being clueless on what’s a decent chat up attempt
Some Indian guys here seem to have the idea that by behaving obnoxiously, whistling, cat calling and following Indian girls, will make the girls fall head over heels in love with them. Where do they get such ideas? No need to look far – Tamil movies. Songs and scenes which depict that if a macha follows and teases a Meenachi of his interest wherever she goes, she is bound to reciprocate to his feelings sooner or later:
Let me give you a plot of a Tamil movie and see if you can find out which movie it is. Boy meets girl – girl gives a glance and guy falls clean bold – guy begins to follow girl with the unflinching support from his friends – girl ignores, boy tests the girl by not appearing in the girl’s stereoscopic view for an unspecified time with the help from his friends – girl notices guy’s absence and searches for him – suddenly, guy appears and girl gets coy – boy keeps at following girl until she gets somewhat bracketed and guy takes it from there. Can’t guess any because there are too many Tamil movies with this story line? I feel you and this is what Indian guys here get bombarded with, day in and day out.
Many Indian guys even display this behavioural vagary in theaters – can’t watch a movie at peace and this only happens when Tamil movies are screened and when only Meenachis are around – behave like that to Chinese Ah Moi or Malay cik adik, siap la.. And, do you have any idea why a Chinese Ah Moi or a Malay Cik Adik clutch to their bags when Indian guys pass by and hesitate to enter elevators where there are Indian guys in them? It is because of this ostentatious, potentially harmful behaviour of some Indian guys here, especially if they are in a group – the Fear Factor then doubles or triples. The image of good Indian guys here gets blackened due to some bad apples. Kerana nila setitik, rosak susu sebelanga.
Many Indians here are completely unaware of this chat up style fed by Tamil movies is criminal and an offence – we tend to think that it is a surefire style and Indian guys think if they play by those cinematic ideals, yenthe figure um madiyum machi. Uzhaipu than perusu na, follow panne yen pol aal ille. And, we cheer and clap at such songs and scenes. It is caveman style chat up attempts – MEDIEVAL. We taught the world civilization and see how some of us behave like barbarians now. Kumutha is clearly unhappy with the attention from Summar Moonji Kumar.
This type of chat ups happen most in Indian ghettos and Indian guys there operate in groups – as soon as they see Indian girls they’d start behaving like lecherous apes.
There is nothing charming, pleasing nor attractive about a group of guys huddling together and whistling at girls. It resembles more like territorial marking display rather than a display of interest. Following too is not appealing – you rather drive the girl away from you than make her get closer to you. On the territorial marking nuance, it’s evident in secondary schools. I went to an all girls’ school and adjacent to my school there is an all boys’ school and it was the tacit rule that all the Meenachis in my school should only choose her macha from that boys school; if any boy from another boys’ school nearby dared to give signal to any Meenachi from my school, cock fights would break out. If this competition is shown at studies, the Indian boys would have reached great heights.
Classy girls and mature women generally don’t entertain such Indian guys; it’s a major turn off to them but schooling girls fall for such indecent machas. When whistled at, they will throw a smile at the guy and he will go crazy. His friends would egg him, “Dei, ava onne paathu siricha da, Saathichite machi!” Nobel Prize vaanggitan, saathichitan. Sounds like a movie scene? No, it’s happening here – I have witnessed this and, Tamil movies don’t help.
I’ve been stalked and followed by Indian guys many times and I have had random boys/men approaching me professing love and asking for sex too and I have feared for my life many times. Following is a big no no. What is shown in Tamil movies is crap – any self respecting Indian girl would not respond positively when followed, whistled at or threatened.
When I was 13, I used to go to Math tuition after afternoon session school and I cycled to my tuition master’s house, at night. Along the way there was a field and a bunch of machas would congregate there, on their bikes, whistling and calling me as I cycle past the field – of course, I behaved like they didn’t exist.. One night, as I was cycling home, they jumped on their bikes and gave chase. They cornered me at an alley and one of em said,”Unaku yenna thimuru, en kude pesna korenja poyiruveh? Inime, naan kupta vanthu pesenum, illati, onne rape panniduven. Ippo po, naaliki naa koopuduven, nee vanthu pesanum, Pesre. Naa onne love pandren. Neeyum enne love pannanum. Purinjitha?” I was near tears and absolutely petrified. To go to tuition I had to cycle past the field, there was no any other route and I did so the next day. They called out when they saw me coming and I cycled as fast as I could past them. My tuition master realized my distress when it was time to go home and I spilled the beans to him tearfully. He followed me on his bike as I cycled and as I passed the field, the boys jumped on their bikes and then my tuition master made his appearance. He rounded up the boys and told em if they ever bothered me again, he’d call the cops. It was the guys’ turn to be petrified; I could hear em beg,”Vena, sir, inime seiya maaten sir, mannichirungge sir.” Aku gelak sakan, balik rumah, berguling-guling aku gelak. I didn’t expect em to be so craven. Indeed, such Indian guys are wimps – they’ll piss in their pants when faced with authority. Tau tunjuk berani kat budak perempuan je.
This is due to Tamil movies la. I will give just two examples – the movies Sethu and Alaipayuthey. In the movie Sethu, Vikram wins the heart of the heroine by aggression – he kidnaps her and actually forces her to accept his love. This scene was directly applied by the guy who threatened me. He expected me to reciprocate his feelings through rough handling and some girls do – they like bad boys and then sit and cry after it’s too late.
In Alaipayuthey, Madhavan stalks Shalini – Shalini responds positively, smiling bashfully – Madhavan closes in and makes his move – calls Shalini to his home – Shalini goes – Madhavan proposes and the rest is history. The message forwarded in this movie is, stalking will make any Meenachi fall for any guy. And, some of our Indian guys are sticklers for this Tamil movies’ love philosophy.
In the movie Moonu, Shruthi tells Thanush to quit following her but he never listens to her. He kept at it and one day she smiles at him and Dhanush gushi aayitu, goes to her home and proposes to her.
The problem is, in Tamil movies, they make it look like the girl likes the guy following her but she doesn’t show it, or doesn’t know it, even that she pretends that she dislikes it but she actually likes it so the guy has to be persistent so that the girl finally confesses that she loves him. And, some Indian guys here buy that idea wholesale which is so primitive and impractical. Trust me guys, it only happens in movies – in the real world, no guy would get a girl by simply following her – it’s harassment, not a turn on.
And, whistling and cat callings at Meenachis. If your worth and ability is only limited to whistling and cat calling, Meenachis might as well marry referees and cat breeders – at least they get paid for whistling and breeding cats. “That macha, who whistles and cat calls at me daily is my dream guy and I would defy my family to marry him,” said no Indian girl ever.
If you want to chat up Indian girls, walk up to them, make eye contact, smile and talk to them. Don’t gang up in groups and try to get the attention of Indian girls obnoxiously. If you don’t have the guts to talk to a girl you are interested in, muster some courage. Whistling, cat calling and following girls won’t make them surrender at your feet. Get your acts straight and remember, our ancestors taught the world civilization – please don’t make them lament in their graves saying,”Poche, vada poche..”