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Aradhana

She has an opinion on every Malaysian Indian goings on. She can be called Karuthu Kannama. She writes on issues that matter in our Indian community and forwards fresh and sometimes revolutionary ideals.

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    REnove

    I dont understand why some girls have this stupid mentality that makes them compare themselves with boys…if guys want to do, why girls cant do the same?? thats what u guys all ask…but forgot that regardless of gender what is wrong, is still wrong…God only see u as individual…sex before marriageis wrong….dnt act like a sheep following others and justify ur stupidity by saying…hey,the guys do it…so girls should do the same…u say guys hve sex before marriage so y cant girls…anyone with brain knows that the consequences are bigger to the girl as she has to bear the child if she got pregnant….thats y girls should be more careful…of course guys expect a virgin to be his wife,because there are also good guys who wait out there…for the other bastards, god will punish them…so,dont be stupid and follow their footsteps and just follow gods teaching to be a good and nice person…we are all judged for our sins as humans in front of god, not men or women….

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      mutz

      REnove, well lets not pass the buck of judgement to god and think. We come from a culture that does not promote sexual equality. It has nothing to do with religion nor the repercussions in the afterlife. Women are still looked at as an inferior being compared to men and to state that women have to be extra vigilant because of the prospect of unwanted pregnancy alone is ridiculous. Men need not be vigilant? Have you heard of STD? HIV? Hepatitis? A women has all the right to do as she wishes with her body and the consequences of what may/may not happen is not ours to judge.

      It is not a matter of following the trend, i believe if a girl were to have consensual sex outside wedlock it is her prerogative and hers alone and not to be judged. Truth of the matter is to expect a virgin wife when the lad has sown his wild oats around is purely hypocritical, sexist and shows that he does not respect his women for the women she is and she is judged merely on the hymen being intact.

      One man’s view of what is and whats perceived as šŸ™‚

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      purple1337

      “Before you come to the conclusion that I advocate free sex culture and orgies, let me say that Iā€™m only addressing a stereotype that girls are burdened with…” Please read properly. The author is not writing what is wrong or right in the eyes of god but how society judges the worth of a woman whether she’s good or bad based on her virginity.

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    Mugi Boy

    Please don’t give Lord Rama and Sita Devi as a example here. Ramayana is not just a story, its a believe of Hindu community. May you dont know about ramayana and the Lord Rama and Sita Devi. I accept most of your points and some not include about Lord Rama. Better you learn about Ramayana before simply put as a example anywhere. Thanks,.
    For your info, i m still virgin guy, and no problem to marry ‘touched’ girl if the love is TRUE.

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      Aradhana

      I have studied Ramayana and Mahabaratha as well as the Gita. In Mahabaratha, Draupadi has 5 husbands, the Pandavas. Vyasa was born to Satyavati out of wedlock. Kunti Devi had Karna out of wedlock and Chitrangada and Vichitravirya died childless so Vyasa fathered Pandu, Drithirashtra and Vidura via Niyoga. All these are the beliefs of Hindu communities as well but are they being practiced at present? No right? Culture is inherently non stagnant. If it is, we will still practice sati now. Do you find burning a widow alive on her husband’s funeral pyre righteous and practical? You see, incarnations of Lord Vishnu were made anthropomorphic, them having human faults, vulnerable to curses and circumstances and in this computer and human rights age, it is only appropriate if some of the pillars be renounced to fit the change of the ever evolving community, hence my observation. Do read my article on ‘Understanding Hinduism’. You’ll get a clearer picture. šŸ™‚ Good day bro.

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    Guest

    “The common Tamil and Indian perception is that a sexually active girl cannot be righteous. It is because sexual purity has become a yardstick for appraising good character in Indian women.

    You think only men have sexual urges? No! Girls are hormonal beings as well and experience sexual urges.”

    You said you’re not advocating free sex culture but the above sentences are a bit confusing. Girls who have ‘sexual urges’ and ‘sexually active’, but with whom? I understand the whole thing about girls losing their virginities to guys whom they thought they’ll spend their lives together but what do you make of girls who sleep around for fun and ‘sexually active’ with multiple partners? Do you think they deserve the same respect as well?

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      Aradhana

      I stress that I am not advocating free sex culture. What I implied when I said girls are hormonal beings as well and have sexual urges like guys is an aspect for being human. Evolution shaped us so for procreation. In cave man times there was no marriage institution – just random bang. As time progressed, civilization and culture were formed and we began to live in the confines of both, creating taboos around sexual matters.

      Science postulates that women get sexual urges when they ovulate, albeit the urge being significantly lesser than men. Have you heard of pheromones? Pheromones are distinctive scents emitted by fertile males and females which drives sex.

      What do I make of girls who sleep around for fun and be sexually active with multiple partners? I think such girls deserve the same respect as their ‘partners in crime’ lest you think if it’s an offence. If a girl deserves no respect for having one night stands, guys who have one night stands don’t deserve respect too. A matter of equality.

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