Valentine’s Day 2016 is around the corner and everywhere, love is in the air. Malaysian Indian guys who are couple fret to the max on how their money is going to drain due to the Valentine’s Day 2016 gifts/dates to give/to go to their Malaysian Indian girlfriends. Already the disquietude is posted on social media via memes like this:
Although I admit that it is hilarious, this macha behaviour as Valentine’s Day 2016 approaches, is getting quite tiring and trite. Year in and year out, it’s the same thing during this time of the year.
How about changing the deal this Valentine’s Day 2016?
It is also true that girls expect gifts on Valentine’s Day and any given day. If their bf don’t get them something on that day, they’ll sulk big time. At the same time, these girls don’t have the decency to get their bf something special for Valentine’s Day – they make it a one way road. And like a one way road, the relationship doesn’t move smoothly. Why? Because love is a 2 way road. Both lovers should try to make the relationship work and therein lies the effort.
It’s not a complete circle if Malaysian Indian girls pride themselves as being educated, working and independent just like Malaysian Indian guys but liat mau keluar duit dan beli sesuatu untuk si dia sempena Hari Valentine or spend for him to equalize his spending for her. This is shallowness and selfishness and sexist. I as a girl, am putting my foot down that non existent thoughtfulness but full blown expectation in Valentine season is what make Indian guys, both oorekaren and Malaysia express their budget lari woes everytime Valentine’s Day approaches. If girls spend equally for Valentine’s Day for guys, then these memes will die down, I hope.
Valentine’s Day 2016 won’t burn a hole in your pocket if celebrated in creative ways
Now, stop thinking that flowers, specifically red roses, chocolates, teddy bears and Valentine Day’s cards are the only stuff you can give as gifts to your sweetheart, both guys and girls. Of course they’re the most typical gifts but they’re literally useless.
Give something that your lover can use/wear or help her/him in their life. And, that doesn’t mean diamond encrusted platinum earrings or a KIA car. That you can give if you’re married and have the expenditure power. Give stuff like clothes, perfume, watch, books etc, not necessarily branded, but useful. A man in Congo gave his gf a whole bunch of plantains (pisang nangka) for Valentine’s Day and she was floored because food is something the people of Congo are hard up for. See how Valentine’s Day gifts need not consist of much hyped, commercialised made for Valentine’s Day gifts – they can be what people need or can use rather than want and useless, useless like roses, chocolates, cards, teddy bears.
Or you can do something creative and memorable rather than corny and garden variety gift giving this Valentine’s Day 2016 (you still have time to plan and execute the plan). For example, you can create a treasure hunt, dropping hints and a trail that leads up to the Valentine Day surprise. Or get a pet for your significant other – not every year one la. If she/he already got pet then don’t la. Use your otak la. Or you can cook something and arrange for your lover to eat the dishes you made. You can find tips and inspirations in this article – do what you can and suits you, taking into account your time, effort application and budget reservation with GST and rising cost of living.
Why complaining and sulking when dealing with Valentine’s Day defeats its purpose
Why do we celebrate Valentine’s Day? To complain and sulk and argue and be like cats and dogs? The whole meaning of Valentine is lost nowadays, especially on Facebook where ignoramuses are at their best:
Valentine’s Day is not only for couples and the married – it’s for everyone. You can celebrate Valentine’s Day if you don’t have a lover, single or plain broke. In fact, in a few countries, Valentine’s Day is celebrated as friendship day. The term Kadhalar Dinam (Lover’s Day) to refer to Valentine’s Day is not only misleading but flawed as Valentine’s Day is a celebration of love present in every relationship, not only conjugal love. So what if you don’t have a special meenachi or macha in your life? Celebrate Valentine’s Day with your parents, siblings, friends or anyone you love and adore. To make you get the feel, here’s Simbu’s Love anthem:
Love is love no matter how one chooses to call it or celebrate it. Happy Valentine’s Day 2016 everyone!