This article is written to illustrate why Indians are failing in the Malaysian society. There will be no sugar coated facts – truths as naked as they are will be forwarded that all is not well in our community.
Ignorance, the lack of drive, bad prioritizing and apathy take importance in this issue highlighted in this article. This, as a package is the self-inflicted plague that besets the Indian community here.
Many Indian parents don’t give much importance to see their children through varsity, being kind of unaware of the fact that a solid education would secure their children’s future and make them hot commodity for employment both locally and internationally.
The average Indian household’ clime here is devoid of acute attention for education. While some parents entrust their children to school and tuition classes, a substantial number of them just cannot put their foot down on knowing whether their children is going to school properly or playing truant as they like. Some parents don’t even know the name and the location of the school their children attend what more the subjects they are studying, their teachers and circle of friends.
Many stay home as well as working mothers, spend their evenings watching Tamil serials while fathers get self-indulgent with alcoholism while expecting their innocent and impressionable children to study, blissfully ignorant that they are setting all the wrong examples. TV leh Thendral serial odum, sattham pullinggeh odeh kaathe kilikum. Pullinggeh padikuma illeh TV le enthe kattam oduthu nu manam alaipayuma?
In due course, after being continuously exposed the rotten exemplary their parents display, these children would begin not to take their studies seriously. Since their parents show not even an ounce of concern on their studies, the perception that “Why should I study when no one cares my education seriously?” would take deep root in the kids’ plastic minds and all will go downhill from there.
Waywardness, ruthlessness and lawnessness would then breed freely and rowdism and crime would become the order of the day for these hot-blooded kids who would take the vices to adulthood. Is it any wonder that prison inmates here brim of Indian male youths, their prime and potential wasting away?
Parents should not leave the onus to make their kids wholesome persons entirely to the school and their teachers as well as tuition. In a class, there will be 25 – 45 students and for teachers to give individual attention to each kid is not possible. Children spend 8 hours in school and if tuition is brought into the picture, 10 hours. The rest of the day, kids spend at home.
It is the responsibility of parents to monitor their kids activities. Talk to their teachers and get to know their friends. It is not enough for parents to drop your kids at school and tuition – turn up unexpectedly at the said places to check whether your kids are still where you left them.
When your children study, turn off the TV and sit with them. Check their homework and if you don’t understand Science, Math, Malay language (We all know how tricky Malay language is) or any other content of the subjects your brood take, have them explain it to you. Not only parents gain new knowledge, the explanation would further fortify the kids’ memory and understanding. Appanukke bothanai senjaru Kanthan.
Action speaks louder than words. Rather than kids listening to what their parents say, kids observe and emulate what their parents do. So, telling your kid to study while you watch Thanggathirai is not gonna work. You take a book and read; your kids will follow suit. Both my parents are avid readers and I took after them.
Kids nowadays are very shrewd; they have 2 faces and forked tongues. At home, they’ll be goody two shoes and transform otherwise once they set foot outside. This is why it is important to parents to be cognizant on how their kids behave outside the house. This rouge replacement conduct is most obvious during Thaipusam; boys and girls behaving badly in a place of worship.
Due to kids being absolutely angelic in the house, parents find it unbelievable when others say otherwise. Sande ku kude poyiduvangge.. En pulleh apdi seiyathu nu.
Apram Facebook leh namma pullingeh attagaasam thangga mudile. In the name of swag, kids misspell English on purpose, profess love openly and do all kinds of monkey business. Ithellam teacher kandika mudiyuma? Parents than kandikanum.
The Indian community in Malaysia cannot afford to rest in its laurels. No point of us basking in our past glories and then holler proud to be Indian when Indians both here and elsewhere achieve great heights. Why did we fail to retain our stellar accomplishments of the past? It is because we have gotten so comfortable with the perception that the past will extend to the future while being proud, instead of working on the way to progress in the present. Education is the only ticket for us to escape a life of misery. Parents, tell your kids how hard you work to give them the best life possible. Kids, appreciate your parents and make them proud to call you their son or daughter.