Lately, Facebook pages which highlight Malaysian Indian girls based heavily on their scant dressing sense have mushroomed in full view for the Indian masses here. The names of such pages are Malaysian Indian Saavadi Sareke, Malaysian Indian Hot & Sexy Girls and so on.
Such pages’ admins justify that they are teaching a lesson on how to dress and behave to these girls while calling them sluts, bitches, whores, etc. In the lame pretext of moral policing the girls, those who operate the pages allow vulgar comments and the soliciting of the mobile numbers from fans of the girls featured on such pages. And, they call this ‘educating’ vandis and playgirls and those girls who reveal their body publicly in Facebook.
And then, there are girls who provide a surplus of material for these sick minds to prey on.
In case you are wondering what ‘vandi’ means, it means a ride, pinpointing girls that random guys can screw.
Not a pretty term, I know.
The people who comment against such pages will be bombarded with pure profanity by the admins..
It is astounding how much profanity any sensible, straight person has to undergo in order to knock some sense into all those admins operating pages that demean Malaysian Indian girls. Perhaps they hold a doctorate for cussing.
Of course girls are free to wear whatever we want. I am a girl too and I too show some skin when I dress up but I don’t upload my pics of me baring skin on Facebook for this very reason. For those girls who upload pics of yourselves wrapped in bath towels why are you doing what you are doing? Are you implying that you actually bathe? I can understand swimsuits and bikini but bath towels?? Enna paapa? Enna solleh vareh paapa? Have some discretion and express yourself and worthiness by your intelligence and wit and not by your capability of dressing and posing like Shakeela or Shreya in the Meow Meow Pune song. They are actresses and they get paid for how much they reveal in bath towels and you do it gratuitously. WHY?
I can take wild guesses WHY.
You think, (I’m giving you the benefit of the doubt that you are innocent and unassuming of the bad, bad world out there) that showing off such revealing pictures of yours to get some likes makes you Miss Malaysian Indian Global. Well, honey, there is more to life than likes on Facebook. Likes on your pictures in Facebook makes you famous for all the wrong reasons – it is potentially harmful.
And, another one, attention seeking at all the wrong ends and means. If a guy comments, “Hot and sexy” on your photo of yours, regardless of you being scantily clad or not you will like it and the message you give to the guy is that yes, you are indeed a vandi and he will take every chance to screw you. Perverts take every suggestion, in this case, your ‘like’ perversely.
You will happily lap up all the attention but the moment you find out that your pics have been featured on such pages, you will go, “Aiyo, amma, saami, kaapatunggeh.” and rush to salvage what little dignity you have left.
Of course you have the freedom to dress and upload your photos as you like but as you go about it, you should take all the precautions necessary so that your photos don’t fall into the wrong hands. Your body is your temple and your responsibility.
Giving you the benefit of the doubt for your apparent lack of understanding on online media security and your frivolity in adding friends which also contribute for the misuse of your photos and they end up in such pages by the doing of your ‘friends’. Leave such pages, your so called friends might have saved your pics in their PCs and circulate them in porn sites.
If you have the fetish to upload scantily clad photos of yours on Facebook, set the privacy appropriately. Facebook has given you that choice. If you choose for your photo to be viewed publicly, face both the positive and negative consequences that come with your choice.
Before you jump at me that I’m outdated and irrelevant to present times and even pattikadu while you girls are civilized, know that being civilized also means knowing that uncivilized people live among us and in order for them not to show their incivility, you should be discreet in whatever you do especially your activities in Facebook and other vulnerable social networks in order to stay safe. Women do have the freedom to dress as they like. But, edam, porul, yeval must be taken into account subliminally. If an Indian girl wears a miniskirt and tank top and walk the streets of Singapore at midnight all alone, the chances of sexual assault befalling her is very, very low. It is otherwise in India.
Girls have the freedom to dress as they like and upload as they like on Facebook. It is indeed their business, not the business of others. Unfortunately we live in a judgmental and keh poh chi community which likes to have a field day hurling aspersions to fellow Indians, especially Indian girls.
For the feminists reading this, baring fangs and ready to take me by the collar, do see that I was always giving the girls alibi, assuming that they don’t know the dangers that come with apathy when social networking and then get caught in a tangle and then regret later. Trust me feminists, I AM ON YOUR SIDE.
I am talking solely about Facebook activities but since I am already at it, I might as well touch a little about rape and patriarchal mindsets.
The thing is, we have to drill into males not to rape and that skimpy clothes on women is not an invitation to rape. Even children and burqa clad women are raped. This fact extends to the fact that dress sense doesn’t encourage rape; it is the sick minds that drives rape; all they want is a vagina to pound.
But, we live in a patriarchal society and society can’t be changed overnight. It takes time. Women are always perceived inferior to men. Women are told not to be bold like boys and boys are told not to cry like girls. This is the root that we should attack and arrest and we should start it with our brothers, sons and male friends. Even if a female walks naked in public, there is no any males’ right to touch even her pinky finger without her consent. Lets teach our sons that value. Remember that Rome was not built in a day. Great things take time and entrenched patriarchal qualities take time to defuse.
This is not bigoted bullshit by a seemingly educated individual. (me) as some of the feminists’ idea will have to say about my article- it is the understanding that uncivilized people,uneducated morons who don’t have proper jobs and resort to crime also live in our civilized world, walking amongst us. We know that snatch theft is rife so we avoid wearing gold jewelry outside. We know that our homes are vulnerable for robbery so we set alarm systems to curb it. We know that we might drown while swimming so we use a float. Likewise. Erring on the safe side is wise.
This clamour that we are modern girls so we dress modern rings shallow when what you are doing is just aping the West.
Trouble comes to women in many faces. It is wise to not invite more trouble online because we already have ample trouble in real life. Let’s begin to teach our male community members that women are not sex objects, we are humans just like them..