Violence a lesson for Malaysian Indian girls?

I am sure you heard of the case where a woman in her 20s was brutally slashed by her own husband and another accomplice in Port Dickson. The woman was subjected to such inimaginable cruel violence just because she wanted divorce from her husband for reasons unknown. The husband saw it fit by threatening to burn the house (and actually did it twice) and kill her and he actually completed his threat halfway. The lady is currently in Port Dickson Hospital, fighting for her life. Here’s the account of a guy who knows the woman and also what triggered the violence.

Screenshot taken from Facebook.

Screenshot taken from Facebook.

The footage of the woman being mercilessly sliced is circulating in social media but the police has asked the public to stop sharing the video as it interrupts investigations.

It seems that Malaysian Indian males resort to violence to subdue their women

Recent happenings of Malaysian Indian males employing violence to bring their women into submission suggests a scary new trend, especially among youth under 40 years old. Many brag about the violence by uploading videos of them abusing their girls online without any fear whatsoever. The reason for the violence exerted on Indian girls is as trivial as the girl not picking up her boyfriend’s phone call. These Indian males see it fit to resort to violence to keep their women under their thumb. It doesn’t matter how long or short the relationship has been going on, violence and threats are now seen as the foolproof tool to teach a lesson to women who are perceived out of line.

You can see the trend very closely when it’s broken down:

1. The guy who uploaded a girl being violently slapped in a washroom for cheating on him. Despite the girl pleading for mercy, he didn’t relinquish from continuously clobbering her – her cheeks were swollen.

2. The guy who caught the hair of his girlfriend and hit her asking her why she didn’t attend his calls.

3. When a girl made a video on unfaithful guys, using full blown profanity, wearing a helmet, it evoked outrage on behalf of many machas. In a counter action move, a guy made a video by slamming the helmet girl with expletives, narrating his failed love story, blaming his gf for dumping him for a policeman (which I approve) and thus concluding that being unfaithful is only within a woman’s range, not a man’s (I think the Clinton Lewinsky, Tiger Woods Amanda Boyd, Brad Pitt Angelina Jolie, this was when Pitt was married to Jennifer Aniston or even Prabu Deva Nayanthara affairs didn’t manage to penetrate the tempurung that he lives under). He said that clad in only a red Sudarmani jatti.

Except for the guy in the Sudarmani jatti, no guys in the video showed their faces. So much for bravery. Their only intention is to shame the girl or to teach her a lesson – that if she dares leave him or do things he dislikes, violence is the way to make her obey him or get back to her or ruin her life. Revenge porn is another way.

What’s worse, many actually support this violence, (not the slashing case but the slapping case, but how long before the slapping turns into slashing?) both Malaysian Indian guys and girls. The latter either keep quiet or support because if they go against that grain, the same fate will befall them. See how the violence instill fear in Indian girls and realize how machas are beginning to inhale violence into them, that it’s an effective way to make Indian girls to fulfill their whim and fancy. Isn’t this petrifying? To add to the fright level, some Malaysian Indians, both male and female, actually supported the slashing of the woman at PD because apparently she cheated on her husband (I don’t know which story to believe now). Now, this is getting demented.

Cheating is gender blind – both women and men cheat. To say only women cheat, is not only ignorant but an insidious denial which is backfiring as violence against women in the Malaysian Indian community. These lots haven’t heard of Ashley Madison I suppose.

Violence to deal with love turned sour – inspired by Tamil movies

Don’t say that Indians take movies especially Tamil movies as just entertainment. A good number of them don’t.

I have seen some Indian guys uploading Facebook statuses that openly glorify violence in dealing with unfaithful girlfriends and other guys supporting them, “Super cha, correct ah sonningge bro,” etc. One that disturbed me most was, “If my girlfriend cheats on me, I won’t upload videos of me beating her. I will make her disappear from the earth.” Now, isn’t that what the 2 guys in Port Dickson attempted? Since the lady asked for divorce/cheated on him, her husband saw it befits him to kill her. Is this Indians’ natural proclivity to violence or Tamil movies’ influence, I am unable to fathom. Maybe it’s a mix of both as well as the frustration on the lack of opportunity due to the unequal playing field as a minority in this country bottled up and now exploding every now and then at our own expense.

Currently, the line, “Love at first sight, kill at first betrayal” quote by Siddharth Abhimanyu (Arvind Swamy) from the movie Thani Oruvan is immensely popular among machas. I don’t get it; is that attribute the only worthy thing to be derived out of the movie? Aren’t the ingenuity, connective news decipher and the realising that behind every petty crime, an organized crime operates worth taking into account? Especially at a time where the happenings in our country demand the application of the last two. Is it just me or is it that Indians are supremely talented in buang yang jernih dan ambil yang keruh in what they see on the silver screen?

If you kill, police enna kabadi aadikittu irukkuma?

Infidelity, walking out on a relationship, asking for divorce, not picking up calls aren’t against the law. Abuse and murder attempts are. This is not to say infidelity isn’t wrong. It’s just that there are better ways to deal with it, ways that don’t involve violence. You can sit and talk. Have an across the board interpersonal communication, sort interpersonal conflicts out and if things don’t workout, part amicably and find a new soul mate. What do you get by violence? Only a bad name. Already Malaysian Indians’ reputation is putrefying and you want to add to the cesspool? Never let your heart rule your head. Show your chagrin by developing your life in a positive channel like nobody’s business. Convert the negativity in you by extending positive output and you will make headway. By killing/abusing your unfaithful girl, you think someone will award you a Nobel Prize? Where did Siddharth Abhimanyu end up? Tau takpe. Crime never pays.

Above all, these are private matters that should be discussed within four walls. If it involves divorce, there’s court of law – settle it there. What kind of pride these people get from dragging private matters to public is something I cannot grasp. It’s not dignified to do so, is it? More like shameful.

Malaysian Indian girls liking bad boys who later resort to violence to keep the girls

Nowadays, it’s trending for Malaysian Indian girls to friendzone and brozone decent and respectable machas and make karat machas their maama sayang. When the girls realize the mistake they made by falling in love/marrying such karat machas and want out, the karat machas turn violent in keeping the girls because they know that they can’t get other girls hence one of the roots of this problem.

Making the right choices in life is very important. Please don’t be brainwashed by the true love concept propaganda perpetuated by Tamil movies – panathe, padippe, azhaga paakathingge, manase parungga. As a girl, you have all the right to go for well educated, well earning and well cultivated guys. It’s expectations and it’s okay to have them. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. It’s not like guys don’t have expectations – they do, especially in the looks department. Even the most karat macha who lives on his friends’ money, steals fags from the maligai kadai and thinks he’s the manmadhan while riding his appan veetu motorbike wants a girl who looks like Kajal Aggarwal. Love isn’t going to pay GST and cover for ever rising cost of living. Better still, you make your own cheddar and wait for a worthy man to turn up or search for one, one that you don’t need, but want. There is no independence like self reliance.